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“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31: 10-11
I cannot count the numerous times that I have heard single women speak of their need to be married. Sitting in on conversations in women groups and sessions that involve women issues has taught me a lot. It has given me a chance to think and evaluate the concept of women who really want a husband. However, at the same time, I know a lot of single women who may not quite fit the description of the woman in this scripture. Some of them are not virtuous and many of them could not be trusted with the heart of their husband if they had one, yet and still they crave the right to be called “wife”. It begs the question of how some men struggle with finding the right kind of woman for a wife. Who can find a virtuous woman? It leaves me to believe that finding a virtuous woman is a monumental task and women of that caliber are probably scarce. Women should ask themselves if they are virtuous and examine to see if they are ready to take on the “ministry” of being good wife, because that is exactly what it is, a ministry. Men are looking for someone to trust and share their heart to. A virtuous woman is chaste and morally excellent. A man craves and desires to trust a woman to love, cherish and nurture. He wants to trust that she will bring him no harm or shame and that she will love him and celebrate him intensely. He wants to deeply love her and know that she loves him and is loyal to him always. A man needs a lot of attention and desires to be the “rock of a woman’s world.” Women who want to be married should understand that being virtuous is strong standing and it is the driving force along with the help of God to a foundation of success in this type of relationship. Ladies, be encouraged today to examine yourselves and prepare for such a wonderful institution. If you are a woman and you are already married, continue on and encourage other women to be morally excellent. Women of this character are magnificent jewels, and that is why good men are looking for them. Are you a jewel?
”…and a prudent wife is from the LORD.” Proverbs 19:14b
It is a blessing to a husband when he has a wife who is prudent. To be prudent means that his wife is sober(habitally temperate,quiet or sedate in demeanor, subdued in tone), discreet(cautious, watchful, well-considered), and sagacious (having or showing acute mental discernment and keen practical sense). As liberated as women are today and some are quite high-spirited, it is still extremely irresistable and appreciated when a husband has a wife who has the qualities that are listed above. My mother instilled these qualities in me and I have found that it intersects past being a wife, but these qualities are also appreciated by others as well. These qualilties work well when being a wife, mother, entrepreneur, friend and other aspects. A prudent wife is from the Lord.
“A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown..” Proverbs 12:4a
To those of you awesome women who are wives, I want to encourage you today to continue to walk in the essence of possessing noble character. Trust me when I tell you that I know from experience what it feels like to enjoy and absorb the doting look in the eyes of a man who is deeply in love and pleasantly pleased with such blessings. I have enjoyed living and loving this way and I am enjoying the new overwhelming and wonderful life and blessings that have overtaken me. When a wife has noble character, she is the pride and joy of her husband’s life. It means that she is exalted in moral and mental character. While she does serve God, her heart is geared toward pleasing her husband on deep levels mentally, physically, and emotionally and he loves it. Her character is saturated with courage, integrity and great reputation. It is her desire to encourage, give close attention to, pamper and gently and deeply love her husband on a daily basis. These are just some of the sensational qualities that happily keeps your husband in your presence. Wives, be encouraged today to continue expressing your love, attention, encouragment, and support to your husbands. Your husband craves your sensual essence, he craves and desires your love, attention, devotion, faithfullnes, loyalty, your thoughts, your committment and your heart. Ladies, I am very excited about what God is going to do for you in your marriages. I am so proud of you, ladies! Keep doing your thing!
Laidies, be encouraged today and be your husband’s crown.
“But the end of all things is at hand: be ye therefore sober, and watch unto prayer. And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:7-8
Be encouraged today to stay in your right mind and stay alert. Stay prayerful and love one another. Love does hide the multitude of faults. Loving someone like that means that you over look the flaws, look beyond the faults and see the need. Many times people can be enlightened to be successful in life when they know that someone loves them without judging them. Take the time out today to love on your loved ones without judging, but with gentle encouragment and inspiration.
“In a similar way, you wives must submit yourselves to your husbands so that, even if some of them refuse to obey the word, they may be won over without a word through your conduct as wives.” 1 Peter 3:1
Wives, be encouraged today and know that if your husband is not abiding by the word of God, it may be possible for him to change by how you live your lifestyle. Teach and encourage him gently and submit to him. You may be surprised in how much his behavior begins to shape into the image of God through the word. Sometimes we may be the only “Jesus” that people see. That’s why we have to make sure that our behavior, conversation and lifestyle are inspirational and encouraging to our husbands. Your actions can change his life for the better. Action speaks louder than words and can be the best tool for a wife.
” A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” Proverbs 31:10
Men, if you are blessed enough to have a wife of noble character, then you are truly considered blessed and highly favored. She is worth far more than rubies. Love her, cherish her, protect her, nurture her, provide for her, listen to her, consider her, and bless her. Do not manipulate or control her, but take time out to understand her and be truthful to her at all times. Be loyal to her and comfort her emotionally, spiritually, financially, mentally and physically. If you do not attend to your beautiful and loving wife, you may be inviting a space for others to do that. Protect your relationship with your wife and do not give room to the devil or anyone else to enjoy what is your responsibility and your awesome labor of love. Be grateful to God if you have such a wonderful and rare gem as a wife of noble character who loves and adore you. Protect that awesome jewel with your life.
“If an enemy were insulting me, I could endure it; if a foe were raising himself against me, I could hide from him. But it is you, a man like myself, my companion, my close friend, with whom I once enjoyed sweet fellowship as we walked with the throng at the house of God.” Psalm 55:12 -14
I have found that one of the most devastating things in life is when someone who you deeply love hurts you. When that person is your close friend and companion, and you totally trust that person, the wounds of hurt can be deep. I can escape enemies and avoid them. Their fiery darts do not affect me. But if a loved one proves to be untrust worthy and operates without regard for my feelings, and without regard for what is right, this can be unbearable. If you have ever been hurt by a loved one, be encouraged today and know that the Holy Spirit provides comfort and healing. A lot of crying and sadness may take place at times, but the healing process is necessary and possible. Put your trust in the Lord for healing and comfort. He will comfort, heal you and he will never fail you.
“Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of the life of your vanity, which he has given you under the sun, all the days of your vanity: for that is your portion in this life, and in your labor which you take under the sun.” Ecclesiastes 9:9
In this life, which at times can seem challenging and sometimes meaningless, it is said to the man, enjoy your wife. The word “enjoy” means to take pleasure in, to adore, appreciate, be entertained, be fond of, be pleased, cotton to, delight in, , dote on, drink in, eat up, get a charge out of, get high on, have a ball, have a good time, have fun, live a little, live it up, love, luxuriate in, rejoice in, relish, revel in, savor, and to take joy in. A man should understand that this is a blessing from the Lord and with all of his toilsome days of work under the sun, he can still take delight in cherishing his wife that he loves so deeply. Enjoy your wife, be happy, merry and blessed. This is your portion in life.
“Let my words and my thoughts be pleasing to you, Lord, because you are my mighty rock and my protector.” Psalm 19:14
Pleasing the Lord should be our ultimate desire. We should pay close attention to what we say and what we think. The Lord pays attention to what we say and think, so, it should be absolutely something that would make him happy. God is our protector and our rock. He is stable and able to bring us through in our lives. We should bless him with good thoughts and words.
“Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.” Matthew 5:9
I had a friend in college who was a wonderful and talented human being. However, she seemed to stir up tension everywhere she went. Others called her the “hell-raiser” because she would create ways to start arguments and upset others on purpose and without provocation. She would ask me how I was able to stay calm all of the time. I showed her God’s word and tried to live a peaceful life before her. She settled down and found other ways to communicate in a calm manner.
It is good to live and operate in peace and it is even more wonderful to share that way of living with others. I would rather be a peace maker than to be a hell raiser. How about you?