Change the Tone

Proverbs 15:1 “A soft answer turneth away wrath but grievous words stir up anger”

I love this scripture and have spent a lot of time experimenting with it.  In any situation where there is conflict I have found that a calm tone of voice can actually help to de-escalate any situation. If you ever get in an argument with someone try this: when the argument gets heated, change the tone of the atmosphere by changing your voice. Speak in a calm and serene tone. This especially works well with couples. But it will work well with children, families, co-workers and friends. Speak with your most serene voice in a low, slow and an almost provocative tone. Your friend is either going to think that you are crazy or he or she will calm down quickly. I have tried this on many occasions, especially when having discussions with friends or associates. One of my co-workers became angry and raised his voice to make his point clear. He became so upset that he started yelling. Well, I could have yelled too. I felt like yelling back and with a few choice words of my own. However, I changed my voice into a soft, calm and sultry mode. I said things like, “I didn’t know that’s how you felt.  I understand now. I am so sorry. Thank you for telling me.” You should have seen the look on his face. His voice went from a roaring lion to a rambling and whining kitten.  In ten seconds he was whining and apologizing. Soft and humble answers do turn away wrath. And sometimes it will have them eating out of your hands! Change the tone.

Patrice Tankard

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